In the last Trail Running Magazine edition, I was struck by an article on motivation. It was well-written and inspired me, but it did nothing for my motivation. It was the perfect article. You need to check it out.
We confuse inspiration with motivation regularly. Too much, in fact, and too often so that we are left empty. We look outside ourselves to be motivated, oftentimes not admitting that the only real motivation comes from within.
Great friends, family, coaches, teachers, bosses, co-workers, children, leaders, speakers, athletes... well, nothing can motivate us like our own desires and intentions. All of these people can inspire us--think of Lance Armstrong, Mother Teresa and George Washington... a cancer survivor in your life or a survivor of horrific circumstances... all INSPIRING.
But WE and ONLY WE are the source for our own motivation. Perhaps this is why so few are truly motivated. Being your own motivation is a huge responsibility, a daunting one, in fact. To work from the point of our own motivation requires a deep and naked examination of what we value, what we need to give up and the bottom line--WHAT WE NEED TO CHANGE IN OUR LIFE.
It is simple, but it is not easy.
The beauty of intrinsic motivation is that when we do the tough work and surrender our belief to our true motivation in life, WE ARE UNSTOPPABLE. "No" is not in our vocabulary. "I cannot" changes to "How can I?" The reality is that being powerfully positive and unstoppable will scare a lot of people in our lives, and because they may be threatened by your never surrender living, be prepared to lose--and gain--people in your life.
WHAT IS YOUR MOTIVATION? Better health? Playing with your grandchildren pain-free? Beating a disease? Kicking addiction in the a**? Saving your life? Sleeping and moving better? Giving your Gift freely to the world? Living a life of purpose? Being Christ-centered?
Remember, those who MIND don't matter. Those who MATTER don't mind.
What legacy will you leave your children--inspiration or motivation?
Be Uncommon,
PJK :)
28 August 2010
06 August 2010
Those Who Mind Don't Matter, and Those Who Matter Don't Mind
This saying has been shared at trainings I attend for my business, and it has changed my belief.
In college, a friend of mine, Bob, was the boyfriend of a good friend. I thought of Bob yesterday, as I was thinking about people's dreams and aspirations. Bob was a driven person and took on a full-time job in his field of study while going to school FULL-TIME. He was a business major, and it was tough. His circle of friends, including me, continually told him how crazy he was, he couldn't do it, it was too much... blah, blah, blah. Do you have friends like that?
I was NOT a friend to Bob (yes, that is his real name!). My friend (his girlfriend) later told me he was getting tired of us telling him he couldn't do it. In fact, he was so darn mad that he worked harder than ever to be successful. Guess what? HE WAS SUCCESSFUL. We were all wrong, but most of all, we were BAD friends. Bob knew better--he did not let us steal his dream. I apologize to him for being a Dream Stealer. I thank Bob for teaching me a lesson.
At that time I saw myself as a visionary, a dreamer, but I was not. I was caught up in the mindset that many of us have today--the mindset that someone or something else defines my vision and goals--someone besides God and me. "Through Him, all things are possible." AMEN
As children, we start our lives dancing, wondering and testing the limits. As we grow, the world tells us, "No, no, no!" There are no limits in our lives outside of those we set for ourselves. The saying, "If you believe you cannot do it, you are right" is true. Our subconscious is a million times more powerful than our conscious--it is what determines our path in life. When we program ourselves for what we cannot do, we lose all sight of WHAT WE CAN DO. And we can DO ANYTHING.
Limitations: physical, mental, education, experience, money, location, time... none of these are limitations--the limitation is our BELIEF. All of the others are conjured excuses for our fear of stepping outside of our current reality. When you live within your reality of then and now, you never move into your full capability. To be bigger than life is to step outside the bounds of your current situation and live recklessly, radically and fully in what you believe. It is then that your life will change. Read that again and do not think about it; do it. Your life will change right now, I guarantee it.
Are you surrounding yourself with people who believe or who gain joy in tearing apart others' dreams? You ARE who you surround yourself with in every way. Misery loves company. That is a well-known saying for a reason. If you want to live your dream, you have to take responsibility for your belief. Shed the negativity in your life, no excuses. Surround yourself with people who lift you up. Hold yourself accountable when the Nasty Naysayer rears its ugly head--stop it in its tracks.
Reprogram your belief for success. Instead of proclaiming, "I will be debt-free," proclaim, "I will embrace financial freedom." Say not, "I will complete a 50-miler if it kills me," but shout to the world, "I will run like a gazelle and claim the victory that is mine." Sounds weird, doesn't it? That is because the majority of those around you are afraid of your success. You freak them out with your optimism and self-assuredness. YOU are afraid of your success. If we are stuck in a circle of downers and disbelievers, we cement a life of misery and mediocrity. Most of all, we fuel our fire of excuses and can list a myriad of reasons we are unhappy, unhealthy and unmotivated.
It is when we step out into the world to live radically, freely and faithfully that we may be alone... But trust me, the other believers are lurking in the shadows looking for you. They, too, are stepping into faith and belief. Strength comes in numbers, but belief comes through FAITH. Faith determines our ACTION. Change your belief, embrace your faith, act radically and freely.
Those Who Mind Don't Matter
Those Who Matter Don't Mind
Do you MIND or MATTER?
The Answer
Be Uncommon,
PJK :)
In college, a friend of mine, Bob, was the boyfriend of a good friend. I thought of Bob yesterday, as I was thinking about people's dreams and aspirations. Bob was a driven person and took on a full-time job in his field of study while going to school FULL-TIME. He was a business major, and it was tough. His circle of friends, including me, continually told him how crazy he was, he couldn't do it, it was too much... blah, blah, blah. Do you have friends like that?
I was NOT a friend to Bob (yes, that is his real name!). My friend (his girlfriend) later told me he was getting tired of us telling him he couldn't do it. In fact, he was so darn mad that he worked harder than ever to be successful. Guess what? HE WAS SUCCESSFUL. We were all wrong, but most of all, we were BAD friends. Bob knew better--he did not let us steal his dream. I apologize to him for being a Dream Stealer. I thank Bob for teaching me a lesson.
At that time I saw myself as a visionary, a dreamer, but I was not. I was caught up in the mindset that many of us have today--the mindset that someone or something else defines my vision and goals--someone besides God and me. "Through Him, all things are possible." AMEN
As children, we start our lives dancing, wondering and testing the limits. As we grow, the world tells us, "No, no, no!" There are no limits in our lives outside of those we set for ourselves. The saying, "If you believe you cannot do it, you are right" is true. Our subconscious is a million times more powerful than our conscious--it is what determines our path in life. When we program ourselves for what we cannot do, we lose all sight of WHAT WE CAN DO. And we can DO ANYTHING.
Limitations: physical, mental, education, experience, money, location, time... none of these are limitations--the limitation is our BELIEF. All of the others are conjured excuses for our fear of stepping outside of our current reality. When you live within your reality of then and now, you never move into your full capability. To be bigger than life is to step outside the bounds of your current situation and live recklessly, radically and fully in what you believe. It is then that your life will change. Read that again and do not think about it; do it. Your life will change right now, I guarantee it.
Are you surrounding yourself with people who believe or who gain joy in tearing apart others' dreams? You ARE who you surround yourself with in every way. Misery loves company. That is a well-known saying for a reason. If you want to live your dream, you have to take responsibility for your belief. Shed the negativity in your life, no excuses. Surround yourself with people who lift you up. Hold yourself accountable when the Nasty Naysayer rears its ugly head--stop it in its tracks.
Reprogram your belief for success. Instead of proclaiming, "I will be debt-free," proclaim, "I will embrace financial freedom." Say not, "I will complete a 50-miler if it kills me," but shout to the world, "I will run like a gazelle and claim the victory that is mine." Sounds weird, doesn't it? That is because the majority of those around you are afraid of your success. You freak them out with your optimism and self-assuredness. YOU are afraid of your success. If we are stuck in a circle of downers and disbelievers, we cement a life of misery and mediocrity. Most of all, we fuel our fire of excuses and can list a myriad of reasons we are unhappy, unhealthy and unmotivated.
It is when we step out into the world to live radically, freely and faithfully that we may be alone... But trust me, the other believers are lurking in the shadows looking for you. They, too, are stepping into faith and belief. Strength comes in numbers, but belief comes through FAITH. Faith determines our ACTION. Change your belief, embrace your faith, act radically and freely.
Those Who Mind Don't Matter
Those Who Matter Don't Mind
Do you MIND or MATTER?
The Answer
Be Uncommon,
PJK :)
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